Parenting Week 9

GOALS:

D&C 121 is full of counsel regarding influencing others for good, which is the essence of raising children. Study verses 34–46 (Links to an external site.)

 and look for all the different levels of the Influence Pyramid.

*I STILL NEED TO READ THIS TALK: 

"We will never have a greater opportunity to teach and show Christlike attributes to our children than in the way we discipline them. Discipline comes from the same root word as disciple and implies patience and teaching on our part. It should not be done in anger."

"What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be? (Links to an external site.)

" Elder Lynn G. Robbins 

*READ AND SHARE the Anatomy of Peace Appendix

>Do PART 2

OPTION 2

Step 4: Act—Do What You Are Feeling to Do

If you want to see Steps 1–3, go to W08 Assignment #7: Getting Out-of-My-Box (Part 1).

You will recall that Ben Arrig’s (see pg. 196) favorite word was "action." The reason for this, according to Yusuf, was that staying out of the box always ends up requiring action. It requires action because the humanity of others calls us not only to see them differently but also to treat them differently—as people rather than as objects. Where we might have been seeing objects rather than people, the change to a heart at peace will necessarily mean that we will start doing things differently. Maybe we need to apologize for something or take responsibility for something. Maybe we need to start listening more or following through better. Or maybe we need to rethink our strategy or mission. To see others as people is to be willing to act in accordance with what we now see. A change in seeing that doesn’t also bring about a change in doing amounts to no change at all.

So after (1) noticing that we might be in the box, (2) finding an out-of-the-box place, and (3) pondering the situation anew, to stay out of the box we must begin to (4) act upon what we are seeing—that is, to begin doing what we feel we need to begin doing for the people we are now really seeing.

These four steps can be remembered with the acronym NOPE:

1. N for Noticing the red flags
2. O for finding an Out-of-the-box space
3. P for Pondering the situation anew, and
4. E for Executing, or acting upon what we are now seeing.

To get out and stay out of the box, say NOPE to the box.

Now act on those feelings and impressions toward this family member. After doing so, write a couple of paragraphs reporting:

1. What you did
2. Why you did it
3. What the result was
4. What impact it had on you