Parenting Week 6

  As Avi profoundly states in Chapter 4,

"Seeing an equal person as an inferior object is an act of violence ... It hurts as much as a punch to the face. In fact, in many ways it hurts more. Bruises heal more quickly than emotional scars do."

 The book defines collusion as a conflict where the parties are inviting the very things they're fighting against.

The word 'conflict' is passive. It is something that happens to us. For example, something we refer to as a conflict might simply be the result of a misunderstanding. But many conflicts aren't that way at all. Many conflicts are like the one we've been considering: they involve situations where the parties involved are actively engaged in perpetuating the trouble. In such case, far from being passive victims of misunderstanding, we become active perpetuators of misunderstanding. The word 'collusion' captures this element of active participation more accurately than 'conflict' does, so we use it to describe conflicts where the parties are actually inviting the very thing they're fighting against."

 .....I saw my son do this very thing with his three younger sisters when he felt they were 'misbehaving.' He would be demanding and overbearing, and they would push back. So we might say that collusion and warring hearts are very contagious."

GOALS: 

• learn from Studio C's video: Every Fight Ever and You Deserve a Better You
• Have dad watch Outward Mindset Parenting Example on YouTube
• Read What Lack I Yet? again
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you should understand the following:

• 1. How to see beneath our behavior and that of our children to discern better how we see and the condition of our heart.
  2. Our own contributions to fights, contention, and other relational problems.
  3. Why and how we should see ourselves—including our motives, our biases, and our pride—more clearly.