Parenting Week 4
Developmentally appropriate practice (DAP) is an approach to teaching grounded in the research on how young children develop and learn and in what is known about effective early education.
DAP also means developmentally appropriate parenting
In what ways did the Savior minister (or even parent) the one, and how do you think parents can follow His example while avoiding being too permissive or too strict?
I tend to avoid confrontation so I always have to remind myself that Jesus Christ stood for truth and righteousness. He was never permissive and he was never too strict even though children of God everywhere may have deserved that approach. I can never truly comprehend the depth of his control and humility. He was perfect and still placed himself beneath others. I will never stop learning from His example to cater to people's individual needs.
What parenting styles did you see illustrated in the two videos and what might be some likely outcomes of the children in these videos?
The parents in the first video were too permissive. Children cannot comprehend the benefits of sleep or math and they need loving but firm guidance to make the right decisions in life. It would be wrong to place a gun in the hands of a child and say, "You decide what you want to do with this." It is similarly wrong to place absolutely no limitations on your child. Life is not limitless. Habits and behaviors formed in our youth are hard to overcome. That is why it is wrong to be too strict. Micromanagement inhibits creativity. A child should not be afraid to make a mistake for fear of their parents reaction.
Discuss your thoughts on the strengths and weaknesses of Baumrind's four parenting styles
It is always nice to evaluate yourself as a parent. You cannot hope to improve yourself if you do not know what your strengths and weaknesses are. Baumrind's parenting styles can help parents evaluate themselves. The biggest flaws in Baumrind's parenting styles is her inability to account for children's temperaments, the parents ability to be both strict and loving, SES, etc.
- Knowing about child development and learning
Domains of Development
We need to understand that there are multiple areas or domains of development. These domains often include, but are not limited to socio-emotional, cognitive, physical, and language domains, etc. EX: "late bloomer"
>four domains of development:
- Cognitive (reasoning and logical thinking)
- Language (oral and written skill)
- Physical (use of big and small muscle)
- Socio-Emotional ( manage emotions and interactions w/ others)
2. Knowing what is individually appropriate
3. Knowing what is culturally important
- Her participants were not diverse in socioeconomic status (SES), ethnicity, or culture.
- She focused more on adult attitudes than on adult actions.
- She overlooked children's temperamental differences (we learned this importance last week).
- She did not recognize that some "authoritarian" parents are also affectionate.
- She did not realize that some "permissive" parents provide extensive verbal guidance.
When one reads Baumrind's writings in greater depth, it may appear to some that she is a big fan of the reciprocity model (or token economy) for family relationships and that she may think unconditional love will make children "selfish and demanding" (Baumrind 1996, p. 223). It also appears that she claims "structure" in the family requires the use of extrinsic motivators (i.e. rewards and punishments). As you will learn later this semester, these kinds of behavioristic motivators—although useful in low-level behaviors—can undermine intrinsic motivation and other highly valued attributes.
Finally, in some of her writings it seems that she approves of spanking and claims that parents who do not use power to compel obedience will be seen as "indecisive." See Ordinary physical punishment: Is it harmful? Comment on Gershoff (2002) (Links to an external site.)
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